The Problem With Cycle Syncing and The Myth Of A Perfect Cycle
Cycle syncing is an amazing concept coined by Alisa Vitti that invites us to understand how our cycle shifts and changes, how we have different energies, qualities, strengths and vulnerabilities across the phases, and then shows us how we can align the tasks of our lives to best harness and flow with those energies. I adore this concept and share it widely with clients and in my courses and experiences because it stops us from living in a linear way and instead teaches us how to embrace the way we aren’t the same each day.
However I’m also really starting to notice a lot of people struggling to cycle sync because when someone does have have an archetypal 28-day menstrual cycle that’s the same every month: regular, predictable, and experienced just as the books say it should be, it can leave you feeling not good enough. Yes, having shame about not having a 28-day cycle is becoming a real thing and I really want to offer a new way of cycle syncing that invites you to embrace and embody your own unique cycle experience, instead of finding another way of not being the ideal human.
In this solo episode I bring the fire, bust some myths, and share why I believe it can actually be really powerful to show up in our most tender moments of our cycle, instead of locking ourselves away for half the cycle, so we can normalise and create a new relationship to the dark feminine.
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What the myth of a 28-day perfect cycle is and why its causing harm to try to be something you’re not,
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How we can make cycle-syncing logic our own to suit our own unique cycle,
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How to create balance if you have no rest time when you bleed, and how it isn’t all doom and gloom from therein,
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Why we need to have a posse around us who gets it, is here for the convo, can listen, support and help you keep living cyclically when the world around us constantly pushes us to tune out and override ourselves.
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Why I created my new 4 month group experience Cycle Sorcery: and how it’s a powerful container for people who want to honour their cycle but on their own terms!
If this episode lands with you, let me know! Your feedback, questions and aha moments help me create episodes that serve you, so drop me a message on Instagram or leave a review or rating!
If you love this kind of content, you’re also invited to come and join my brand new free community – the Wild Flow Circle. It’s a sacred space for women on the same path of cycle awareness to gather, share ideas, collaborate, and surround yourself with other inspiring women living, loving and leading in flow with their cyclical nature. Come join us here
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All about the juicy journey I created for you,
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Book a chat to ask me your Qs to decide if this is right for you,
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CONNECT WITH CHARLOTTE
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Download your free detailed guide to cycle charting your menstrual and moon cycles by subscribing at www.charlottepointeaux.com.
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Join the waitlist for my new group coaching experience CYCLE SORCERY to receive an exclusive early bird offer and first invitation to apply at http://www.charlottepointeaux.com/sorcery
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Come find me on Instagram at www.instagram.com/charlotte.pointeaux.coach
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When you want to create real change, its important that you don’t follow what you think you should be focusing on. instead, ask yourself what’s true for you. how will you know? your body will tell you.
Have you picked a word for the year yet? A New Year’s resolution? Is your year mapped out with strict timelines and a whole lotta hustle? Maybe so… But if this approach doesn’t feel quite right to you, I’d love to offer you a different way: a more feminine, embodied, feelings-based way of setting intentions for the year ahead. In this episode I’m sharing my embodied intention-setting technique which I guide all my private wild feminine coaching clients through, so you can get crystal-clear, alive, juicy and deeply inspired to call in your most luscious year yet.
What’s more, the cycle mysteries teach us that New Years Day is not the correct time to be declaring “New Year, New Me!”. Instead, there’s meant to be an in-built hibernation, restorative time to let the death of the last year complete, and the visioning and dreaming of the new year to occur before we rush in all guns blazing with our new habits.
I suggest we allow ourselves one Moon, until New Moon (22nd Jan 2023) to let our visions become clear, so we’re sure we’re choosing the right path that honours our capacity, desires, needs and energy, rather than overriding and pushing through. Let’s resist the urge to overdo it and then quit at the first hurdle, all burnt out, and instead take a cyclical, embodied approach right from the get-go.
Sex And The Menstrual Cycle on wild flow podcast
I’ve been wanting to have a conversation about sex and sexuality on the podcast for some time now. Sex, desire, sexuality, and sexual pleasure are such taboos and often get left to the wayside and yet its such an intrinsic part of the menstrual cycle, and of our humanity. This conversation has left me feeling nourished, connected, soft, curious and whole. I hope that in listening you feel that way too.
Allow me to introduce you to Ruby. Ruby May is a devotee of the Yin, facilitator, community & connection catalyst, midwifing a world in which cyclical awareness is integrated into the way we relate and shape the world.
With a background in working professionally with intimacy and sexuality and a stint working as a dominatrix, Ruby became fascinated in the phenomena of Feminine leadership and how the womb could become a gateway into embodying this.
She is the community leader for the graduates of the Menstruality Leadership programme for the Red School, the biggest education centre globally for Menstrual Cycle Awareness and her own initiative, Know Your Flow. Both support the cultivation of community for developing body literacy, inspired leadership and social change, with over 200 members from over 20 countries.
The author of “Know Your Flow: A cycle Tracking Journal for Personal and Planetary Revolution” and creatrix behind”The Game”, Ruby currently lives in the creative cauldron of Berlin.
Listen, enjoy, share with your partner and friends, and allow this conversation to inspire you into deeper relationship with yourself and your cyclical experience. Happy listening
Welcome To The Pleasure Club
Pleasure. What is pleasure? Does the word fill you with shame, guilt or uneasy feelings? Do you feel like pleasure isn’t for you? Does this potent word conjure up thoughts of sex, and how comfortable you are with your own sexuality?
Pleasure is so much more than this, and my guest on Wild Flow the Podcast, Rowena Hobbins, is here to invite you into reframing pleasure as an essential part of your path to healing and empowerment. In fact she’s here to invite you to join the Pleasure Club!
This juicy chat with my soul sister and biz bestie dives deep into:
Our own personal relationships, attitudes and experiences of pleasure both in the past and present,
What pleasure means to us, and what it means to you, and why it’s not all about orgasms,
What blocks you from relating to and accessing pleasure,
Why you can’t open to pleasure until you’ve done the deep inner work, looking at childhood patterns and conditioning around pleasure first,
Why pleasure is essential to cultivate and learn to hold in your body, and how this missing link has been life changing for both of us
and how Rowena is on a mission to invite women to reclaim their pleasure birthright in her new Pleasure Club in 2023 (this sounds seriously amazing!)