Pleasure. What is pleasure?
Does the word fill you with shame, guilt or uneasy feelings? Do you feel like pleasure isn’t for you, not a priority? Does this potent word conjure up thoughts of sex and intimacy, or do you connect with pleasure in other ways too?
Pleasure is so much more than this, and my guest on Wild Flow the Podcast, Rowena Hobbins, is here to invite you to reframe pleasure as an essential, deep, healing part of your path to your empowerment. In fact she’s here to invite you to join the Pleasure Club!
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This juicy chat with my soul sister and biz bestie dives deep into:
Our own personal relationships, attitudes and experiences of pleasure both in the past and present,
What pleasure means to us, and what it means to you, and why it’s not all about orgasms,
What blocks you from relating to and accessing pleasure,
Why you can’t open to pleasure until you’ve done the deep inner work, looking at childhood patterns and conditioning around pleasure first,
Why pleasure is essential to cultivate and learn to hold in your body, and how this missing link has been life changing for both of us
and how Rowena is on a mission to invite women to reclaim their pleasure birthright in her new Pleasure Club in 2023 (this sounds seriously amazing!)
If you have been a caregiver or even a Mum you will understand how everyone else’s needs can become a priority – but what about when your own needs aren’t met at the most primitive level of pleasure?
Rowena Hobbins, a certified life coach shows women how to identify parts of their story that has encumbered their own needs of feeling deep joy and PLEASURE.
Rowena’s background was originally working as a well respected teacher and mentor for other teachers and training as well as a literacy expert and working with children who we neurodivergent of nearly a decade.
Shortly after birthing her children, she realised it was more advantageous to use her skills to become an expert working with other male dominated industries and with her husband has run successful past and current award winning, multi million dollar businesses, a retreat stay business and also a thought leader to change the face of how business is always family first in order in particular, support her neurodivergent child by working in round about hours.
As a business women and owner, she has learned how to deal with extreme ups and downs as well as noticed how difficult men in the industry find it hard to tap into their own emotions unless through some physical space of either pleasure or even work.
As an extremely busy women holding many plates, she shares her experiences of how the pandemic and personal struggles with anxiety have lead her to deeply embody her own pleasure by recognising a common pattern of women ignoring their invitation into pleasure and having it “dick – tated” to them.
Rowena has a degree in psychology, masters in educational practice as well as a certified life coach, energy healer, sacred circle facilitator, breathworker, sound healer and also a first moon faciliator and advocates strongly for woman defining who they are by speaking their truth. She holds space currently for women and men who are on their healing journey and has operated, up until now, all from word of mouth for intuitive readings.
She is a truth seeker in this lifetime, shedding many wounds as she has journeyed with Charlotte this year with coaching and honouring stories of inner abandonment to open to full blown pleasure. Rowena is opening doors to the Pleasure club for women to join in and to experience a redefinition of what pleasure looks like.
connect with rowena:
The Pleasure Club: read all about it here
Check out Rowena’s ‘Raising Up The Podcast’ https://www.raisingup.com.au/podcast
and her website www.raisingup.com.au
Listen to Rowena’s previous episode on Wild Flow Podcast on Healing The Motherline Through Your Rites of Passage
And listen to me as a guest on Rowena’s podcast where I talked about my life-changing ‘Raising Up’ moments (TW:SA)
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imagine a world where mothers were given sacred space to welcome their daughters intentionally into their coming of age rite of passage. and where girls were welcomed into circle with other mothers and daughters to find deep wisdom, loving support and a chance to experience true sisterhood all before their 13th birthday. there is a place on earth: it’s called the seeding wisdom journey held annually in the illawarra (nsw) by wise women arahni lion and jo rockendorfer. If you’ve ever wished you were more supported, more seen and heard, more understood and respected in your own maiden years, this is a truly special way of healing that part of you, and to give your child the best start to a conscious, empowered, embodied and connected womanhood. I know that when my daughters are of age, we will be taking the journey together, one by one.
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