Would you like your daughter to wait until she’s a little bit older before she comes to a First Moon Circle? If so, she might actually benefit more from coming sooner.
First Moon Circles are for 9-12-year-olds to educate, support, prepare and celebrate them. It’s a very special one-off experience that gently shares wisdom about what periods + puberty is and what changes your daughter will experience as she journeys through puberty, ending at the beginning of her menstrual cycle.
She learns how to care for herself once her body changes and bleeds begin, and she learns about the mystery of the 4 phases (seasons) of the cycle, and the superpowers and shadows these can bring. We talk about how it can feel, what she can practically do to support herself, and all the ways she can ask for help.
As girls get closer to 12-13 they start to become hyper-aware of the strange feelings they have in their body, thoughts + emotions and the new level of awareness their brain has.
It can be a disorienting, embarrassing, and anxious time for girls who – despite your best intentions as a mother to be open and normalise periods – have already absorbed cultural shame and stigma of their changing bodies. It can be much harder to talk easily with your daughter at 12-13. Yet I see the 9-10-year-olds being much more open, feeling less embarrassed + more talkative as this is fascinating to them – not yet necessarily something they’re deep in the throes of experiencing.
My belief is that the earlier we talk about this the greater the impact we can have on their experience.
I would love to see a beautiful circle of girls with wonder in their eyes, smiles on their lips and fullness in their hearts from feeling seen, heard, supported and fully informed.
If you have a daughter aged 9-12 bring her along to one of our circles! We have a beautiful mother-daughter celebration at the close which shows your daughter how she can talk to you with ease and openness too. Perhaps you’ll learn wisdom for yourself too!
You can find a circle near you here.
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You’ve been learning about your menstrual cycle and how to attune to its changing daily strengths, vulnerabilities, and self-care needs – and it’s been life changing to finally learn what you should have learnt as a child. So imagine how powerful it would be for our children to learn this knowledge and wisdom now – rather than having to figure it all out after many years of being disconnected to their body, their cycle and therefore, themselves. If you’d love to share what you now know with your child or any other child for that matter but aren’t sure of when or how to start, I’d love to give you some ideas to help you do that confidently in a way that feels gentle, age-appropriate, and empowering for you and your child.
Many mothers have traditionally thought that children aren’t ready to learn about their body, how it changes, what menstruation is, or anything else associated with puberty until they have their first period but when we leave “the talk” until this time, children already have a lot of feelings, thoughts and confusion about what’s been happening to their body and sense of selves for a while, and they question what these changes mean about them if they are left in the dark.
Children in the playground talk and share information that’s usually incomplete or inaccurate, leaving children to piece the story together themselves. Schools deliver education that’s most often squashed down in one or two hours total to combine information on what periods are and how to manage blood, anatomy and how reproduction works which sends children the message that having periods means that falling pregnant is something to fear, and that when they begin their periods, they’re ready to have sex, which is not the case at all from a developmental point of view.
When talking about periods is so uncomfortable, it continues the menstrual taboo that we have been victims of for millennia. So how do we cultivate a period positive culture?